• Han Butler

15 Rules I Follow In Life

Updated: Sep 17, 2019


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I've never been one who deals with authority very well. Of course there are laws that have to be followed - even the dumb ones - but when it comes to my mind, body and life, I do not appreciate trying to be controlled; whether that's through a job, society, the media etc. I'm pretty much just winging life, but I do have a set of rules that I live by to make sure that I don't get walked all over, but also to make sure that I stay a decent fucking human being. I suppose you could say I live by a specific code, one which I want to share with you.


15 RULES I FOLLOW IN LIFE


1. Don't hold grudges...

I don't hold grudges, it's just not productive. If I held a grudge against every person that did me wrong or hurt me, I would be consumed by anger and resentment - and quite frankly, life is just too short for that.


2. Say yes to new adventures...

Adventures begin at the end of your comfort zone.


3. Say no to shit I don't want to do...

I respect my time and energy too much to not set boundaries. Freedom is being able to say no without being required to give a reason.


4. Always go after what I want...

A lot of my rules come down to the fact that life is just too short. So I won't waste it wondering "what if?", I go after everything I want - everything that my heart desires, whether that be in love, work or fun.


5. Never compare myself to others...

It's pointless. There will always be someone who is prettier, smarter, richer, happier than me - so what's the point in comparing me to them. I'm happy with who I am and what I do, I don't care what others have.


6. Don't apologise for who I am...

I'm an emotional mess 80% of the time, I can't go to public places without someone with me, I swear like nobody's business, I love sex, I'm a little too honest sometimes, and I love with every fibre of my being. You won't catch me apologising for any of it, because it's who I am.


7. Be loyal...

If I love someone, whether that be family, a friend or partner, I'm loyal to a fault.


8. Be grateful...

I try to tell and show the people in my life as often as I can how grateful I am to have them in my life. Expressing gratitude for everything I have, and for every lesson I learn - truly changed my outlook on life.


9. Always be kind - even to assholes...

It's not difficult to be kind to others. I've never been able to understand how people have such a hard time with it, especially on social media. If you don't like someone, just don't fucking say anything to them.


10. Respect myself and others...

I respect everyone, unless they show me disrespect. You can't just demand respect from people, you have to earn it.


11. Always have manners...

Like kindness, it's not difficult to say please and thank you. It's something that should have been instilled into you at a young age.


12. Never leave people feeling unloved and uncared for...

It's cruel to leave your loved ones wondering whether you love them, which is why I tell them how much I love them every chance I get. You can never say "I love you" too much.


13. Always take responsibility for my actions...

Sure, I live unapologetically, but if I've done wrong, I will take responsibility for that. It's just part of being a good human being.


14. Do no harm, but take no shit...

I will do what I want and won't let anyone walk all over me - as long as it's not at the expense of someone else.


15. Always follow my heart...

I'm a logical thinker, but my heart will always win.


Do you have any rules you like to follow?


Love, Han


xo



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