Bloggers Uncensored: with Becca Blogs It Out
Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! This is my latest and favourite blog series that I've created. This series is an opportunity for you to hear your favourite bloggers' honest, uncensored, thoughts about real life topics. This week's blogger is Becca Blogs It Out.
Tell us a little about yourself.
I'm Becca, I'm 34 years old and I live in Kent with my husband, 2 year old twins and 2 indoor cats. I'm a stay at home mum, with depression and anxiety.
Why do you write?
I love writing and always have. I find it really therapeutic to get the thoughts in my head out on to paper.
Why did you start blogging?
My babies are IVF twins and I struggle with my mental health. As I mentioned before, I find writing therapeutic and I thought blogging would be a good way to raise mental health awareness and help other people who have been through similar situations. It's amazing to have a platform where people actually listen to (read) what I have to say.
What do you love about the blogging world/community?
The support I have received from other bloggers has been amazing. Everyone is always so willing to help others.
What do you hate about the blogging world/community?
The follow/unfollow game. It just drives me mad. If you're not interested in someone's content, just don't follow them. Don't follow them to get them to follow you and then hope they won't notice when you unfollow them. It's rude and dishonest. I haven't had a big problem with this so far, but the whole concept gets on my nerves.
In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?
There are so many brilliant bloggers who aren't getting the attention they deserve. This kind of question messes with my anxiety, because I'm always worried I'll miss someone out! It's the same reason I hate # FollowFriday.
What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?
That people are not always who they want you to think they are. That life is very good at kicking you when you're down. That having a baby is the most natural thing in the world... until you're told you can't do it. That smiling doesn't always mean you're happy.
What does freedom mean to you?
Not having to worry about where my next meal is coming from or whether I'll have a rood over my head that night. Knowing there's enough money in the bank to pay my bills and put petrol in my car. Not being judged for who I love or who I chose to marry or the colour of my skin. I'm very lucky to have those freedoms.
What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?
I could talk about this for hours. Mental health is like the poor cousin of physical health and I will never understand why, because both are equally important. I think people struggle to understand what they can't see and I get that, but we're not talking about unicorns and fairies here. We're talking about a person's ability to function every day. Society needs to try harder to understand that. It's not like it's rare or only affects a certain minority. Mental health doesn't care about age or race or class or wealth or physical health or gender or sexuality. It can affect anyone, but society seems to want to pretend it doesn't exist. Mental health advocates have done so much to raise awareness, but we have a lot more work to do.
What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?
Don't be afraid to ask for help. It is out there and you are worthy of it.
What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?
Stand up for yourself. I don't mean "fight back" as such, but don't take it lying down either. You do not deserve it. Work out who can help you and talk to them. You do not have to put up with it.
If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?
Prejudice. I'd love to live in a world where people could go about their lives, without being judged by people who have business judging them.
What else do you feel strongly about?
Fighting stigma. I felt it when people found out about our infertility and I feel it when people find out about my mental health issues. I want to show people that it's ok to be open and honest about things that people might find uncomfortable to hear. I mean, it's ok to keep things to yourself if you want to, but no one should feel like they have to. Life can be very lonely if you feel like you can't talk about what you're going through.
Let's end with some fun 'This or That' questions:
Love or money?
Work hard or play hard?
Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?
Upside down (so they don't get dusty and you don't find spiders hiding in them when you take them out of the cupboard)
Chocolate or sex?
Well, sex doesn't make me fat,
Nope. Sorry. Still chocolate.
Plan everything or wing it?
Happiness or money?
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