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Bloggers Uncensored: with Dee The Gemini

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Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! This is my latest and favourite blog series that I've created. This series is an opportunity to read you favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics. This weeks blogger is Dee The Gemini.

Tell us a little about yourself.

This has always been a hard question for me, I never know where to begin. I'm a Gemini and I pride myself on having the mental capacity of two brains. For those of you not into astrology, I advise you at least research the basics. I'm a Connecticut resident and no I'm not rich! My oldest child is 13, my youngest is 10 and I'm 28. You do the math.

Why do you write?

I write to say what I can't speak. The 2 million thoughts constantly running through my head often collide with spoken word. Once a word is spoken, it is out there forever for whomever o interpret it the way they see fit. I word can be erased or rearranged...changed to make a better sentence.

Why did you start blogging?

I started blogging because I a project I am working on that requires readers to connect with me on a very personal level. A blog is a fantastic way to gain followers and relate to others, gain insight on what people want to read about, and a personal fav, receive constructive criticism and feedback.

What do you love about the blogging world/community?

I am particularly new to the blogging scene and being on the creative side of it, it's admirable how much they (we) all stick together and genuinely want to help. Shout out to Han & thanks for all of this!

What do you hate about the blogging world/community?

I am always at odds with the blog sites that lack substance. Life issues stem deeper than whether Offset is cheating on Cardi B. Mac Miller just died of a drug addiction but I see more coverage of the fight between Cardi and Nicki's entourage.

What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?

Hmm...learnt? Must be a UK thing haha! Anyhow, I've learned that I am not exempt from bad happenings. As a child and well into adulthood, I seemed to always think horrible things happened to other people and could not happen to me. For example, I can't get fat, I can't get pregnant at 14 years old, my best friend could never die, if you cheat and never get caught, you won't get cheated on. Boy was I wrong!

What does freedom mean to you?

Freedom to me is being able to grow Marijuana at whatever rate I choose. Being able to collect rain water without being questioned by the government; getting pulled over for actual probable cause and not because the all black Chevy that the black girl's driving "license plate light is too dim".

What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?

Mental health is portrayed in the media and society as "cool". It's almost a norm. As an example, Boonk Gang clearly has some deep mental issues. He calls out for help on a regular basis but what do we do? We repost and retweet with a caption, "LOL" or "Stay off drugs, kids." Instead of finding out why this man feels the need to completely numb himself with drugs. Same situation with XXXtentacion, RIP.

What are your thoughts on feminism and how it's portrayed in today's society?

I think it's sickening how the media makes women feel they have to have a certain body type, or plump lips in order to be successful. Don't get me wrong, I love the eye candy just as much as the next guy (lol) but us women do not need a rotund ass and big, perky tits. It's not realistic and we have so much more to offer.

What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?

I would tell them to reach out to other with the same issues. It can be easier to deal with issues when others can relate and you realise you're not the only one suffering. I would also advise them to do research on medication they are prescribed just to be sure what is being ingested into the body.

What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?

I would advise these individuals to reach out to any help line that interacts with victims of bullying. Much like mental illness, it can be easier to deal with an issue when others can relate. Suicide should never be an option and if you are contemplating this idea, please reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255).

If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?

I would rid the world of envy. I feel this is a useless human emotion that only results in mental anguish and self destruction.

What else do you feel strongly about?

The meaning of disrespect. It seems as most older folks feel the term "disrespect" refers to one not doing what they say or what they ask for. Sometime last year I was speaking with my grandmother and the conversation started to get personal. In order to protect my feelings, I told her "I don't want to talk about this anymore". Apparently, this was the wrong thing to say. She got defensive and we didn't talk for about a month after that. Would you totally disregard yourself in this situation and keep speaking about a touchy subject just because your elder said so?

Let's end this with some fun 'This or That' questions:

Love or money?


Work hard or play hard?


Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?


Chocolate or sex?


Plan everything or wing it?


Happiness or money?


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If you'd like to take part in Bloggers Uncensored please email me at - chroniclesofacreativemess@gmail.com for more info.

There's a new blogger every Sunday at 5pm, see you there!

Love, Han


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