Bloggers Uncensored: with Oh So T
Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! If this is your first time reading a BU interview, this is my longest running blog series, and definitely my favourite. This series is a perfect opportunity to read your favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics, and to discover new bloggers to follow! This weeks blogger is Oh So T.
Tell us a little about yourself.
I'm Tori Harrison Trainee solicitor and to sum myself up I would say I am somebody who loves cheese, gin and making bad choices.
Why do you write? And why did you start blogging?
I began blogging back when I was 16 during GCSEs, a friend had a blog and I thought it would be fun. An ex sort of killed that vibe and I didn't begin writing again properly until we split up and I met Andy. I used writing as an escape whilst at university and launched Oh So T in May 2019 as I felt my blog didn't reflect 'me' anymore. I'm really trying to use my platform for good and to support local businesses in Cheadle by raising awareness. Our high street is on the verge of being derelict so I'm really trying to focus content on the local area in the next few months.
What do you love about the blogging world/community?
I love the friends I have made at blogging events, in fact I met one of my best friends in Manchester at an event! I also love the support from other bloggers, if you're a lovely person you attract other lovely people and become friends. It's really nice. I love having a piece of the internet to share my random ramblings and thoughts too!
What do you hate about the blogging world/community?
The one thing I hate is the negativity and calling people out. There are certainly a few culprits who crop up on my timeline time and time again and claim it's to better the blogging community. Just private message the person, half of the time they've made a genuine mistake and are really sorry for it.
In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?
There are too many to even attempt to list!
Legally Fierce Feminist - I'm a bit biased as she is my bestie haha!
Life of Luce - I love her instagram and content on her blog.
July Journal by Yasmina - Her content is beautiful and I really enjoy reading her posts.
What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?
Not everyone is going to stay in your life no matter how much you want them to. Not every job you work in will be right for you! Your mental health and well being is so so so much more important than anything else and we need to put that first and nothing else. The last one is one I am trying to work on as I don't put my mental health first and I need to make me a priority.
What does freedom mean to you?
Just being able to do what I'd like to do and when. Being able to post what content feels right for you and not being restricted by a niche.
What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?
I have two opinions on this - I really feel that mental health has been positively portrayed recently. There has been a real shift in understanding and acceptance from employers which is so positive.
There are people who I think have taken advantage of this positive change though (not applicable to everybody just one or two people). There is someone who I used to know very well who pretended to have a mental health issue for attention and still does if I'm honest. She jumped on the movement and used it to her advantage, which felt like a slap in the face for those who have suffered. Having a mental illness isn't fashionable, it is a serious battle for those who suffer daily and it is one of the worst things I have ever dealt with.
What are your thoughts on 'Love is Love' and how it's portrayed in today's society?
Love is love and I think the people who are supportive and accepting FAR outweigh those who are unaccepting. Whenever anything awful happens there are always thousands of people more who are supportive than those who are negative. I feel the positivity and support is really beginning to drown out the noise of the negativity.
What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?
My biggest pieces of advice are reach out because you are not alone and seek medical help. I buried my head in the sand for soo long and it took my parents taking me to the doctors themselves before I realised how unwell I was. I tried to rationalise my mental illness as simply a chemical imbalance in my brain that needed medicine to even itself out, of course it was more complex than that but it really helped me with taking the medicine and going for the check ups. You aren't alone and please use Twitter to reach out - There are so many amazing mental health bloggers and people who will reach out to you and be so supportive. My inbox is also open to anyone who may need help so please message me and I'm happy to lend and ear and help!
What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?
I was bullied throughout high school for having a high pitched voice. I was called squeaky mouse and I really worried this would affect me for the rest of my life. It didn't though. Thankfully the bullying ended when the bullies grew up and I'm now a trainee solicitor talking to and in front of people every single day and no-one mentions my voice it all!
There are amazing charities who can help and definitely speak up to your school or workplace about what you are experiencing. There are processes in place to tackle this and again, it does get better. Don't let the bullies define you (easier said than done I know) and continue being you, because you are unique and there is no-one else in the world quite like you.
If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?
At the moment, the Australian wildfires and climate change. This has been a huge worry and concern for me recently and I've started making big changes for our family to be more environmentally friendly.
What else do you feel strongly about?
Fighting for justice. I deal with this on a daily basis in a civil context, but I am more passionate about this in a criminal context. I've found a passion for this after my recent experience in Crown Court and I am really considering my next steps in terms of career to further pursue this.
Let's end this with some fun 'This or That' questions:
Love or money?
Money - I'm lucky enough to have all the love in the world at the moment so I'd have to say money to help us grow as a family haha!
Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?
I don't have any cups in the cupboard, I have them on a cup stand. If I did though cups right side up always.
Chocolate or sex?
Sex - 100%. I mean chocolates pretty great too so that's a hard one.
Plan everything or wing it?
Wing it - everything in my life is winged. I am not a woman with a plan at all... it's a bloody nightmare!
Happiness or money?
Happiness - it's the one thing money cannot buy. I suppose I would prefer to cry in a Bentley and not a Fiat 500, but we can't have everything can we haha!
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