Bloggers Uncensored: with Real Girls Wobble
Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! This is my latest and favourite blog series that I've created. This series is an opportunity for you to read your favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics. This weeks blogger is Real Girls Wobble.
Tell us a little about yourself.
My name is Katrina Rohman, a 35 year old (who is mentally 21) born and raised in Cardiff, south Wales. I started writing Real Girls Wobble as an outlet for me to document my life, thoughts and feelings. Luckily along the way others have found me and enjoy following my life journey. Where does the wobble come from? Everyone has moments where they need to to think through a decision, however big or small, and the reality of it. I am also a curvy girl so it is a double entendre!
Why do you write?
I love being social! Any opportunity to get out and mix with people. The majority of my blog focuses on the events I attend, where I eat and drink, my favourite items and my business acumen gained from my professional career in sales, marketing and hospitality. The mission for Real Girls Wobble is to inspire my readers with products, places to go and encourage them by sharing ideas, experiences and real-life stories.
I have a Professional Diploma in Marketing and have worked specialising in hospitality, events, advertising, PR and communications - which I have being doing for over 15 years. I do a lot of writing for my day job, but enjoy blogging as a hobby.
Why did you start blogging?
The Internet has allowed me to be brilliant, creative, outgoing, daring and occasionally unconventional. Sometimes I am a little boring too, but isn't that real life? I still don't know what I want to be when I'm a 'grown up' but have always enjoyed reading and writing and thoroughly enjoy the opportunities that it brings.
What do you love about the blogging world/community?
The support; other bloggers know the time and effort you put in. I also think it is a fantastic way to communicate in real time with people on the other side of the world. Growing up, if I wanted to speak to someone in America, for example, I would have to write a letter and await the response, this could take weeks. now, there is social media, text messages and email. It is a great way to connect and learn about other countries and cultures - or even meet someone who lives in the same town who you would never of connected with without this shared interest.
What do you hate about the blogging world/community?
It can be quite negative, at times. This could be because of jealousy or strong opinions not expressed in the right way. We can be a bit quick to jump on the bandwagon and not look at both sides. However, these do tend to be called out on it. Let's face it, some make a living out of being the 'bad guy'.
In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?
I don't like the word underrated - I prefer undiscovered. Each blogger will have their own reasons for writing, and each will have their own skill base and unique style. I like to be entertained, if you are funny, quirky or a realist I will be more drawn to you and what you are doing. We all know brands are looking to collaborate with those who have the followers and readership, this takes time. It also allows the ones that do have the passion and drive to continue, rather than the ones who think they will be an overnight success.
What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?
Too many! Where shall I begin...?! Do not give up an opportunity however big or small because you feel inadequate or under skilled. Go for it, what's the worst that can happen? Say yes to that date, even if you're not sure about him/her - give them a chance. If you get invited to a part, event, somewhere - go! If you do not enjoy yourself when you are there, you can always leave. Try new experiences, push your comfort zone, experiment. Some of us are not around enough to enjoy life, or put things off until they're too late. Enjoy life and get some stories to tell the grandchildren.
What does freedom mean to you?
Everything. I am so lucky to have been born at this time. Even though we do have some work to do on equality, I can come and go as I please without a chaperone. I am free to apply for jobs that I want, without having to rely on a man to look after me. I can travel the world, explore the countryside, walk along the beach without someone having to hold my hand. I also like that I can be free with my speech; I do not have to be restrained with my creativity or style. The only thing that holds me back is money - why doesn't this grow on tree's?
What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?
I do find this question quite difficult. I think we can all have dark patches in our life, and some points in our life are a challenge. I certainly have had some difficult times with employment redundancies. I do have negative thoughts and worry about paying bills, the way I look, what people think of me, etc. I do think that some people do suffer ongoing mental health. However, I do think people are too quick to jump on the bandwagon. I have seen it be used to get out of doing tasks or jobs, or will go on the sick for a few months because they know they can get away with it as it is a difficult thing to challenge. This is not right, and it puts a negative light on those who need the support.
What are your thoughts on feminism and how it's portrayed in today's society?
I am a feminist. I think we should be paid equally, have the same access to education and be able to apply for the same jobs - without restrictions. If you want to be in the police, you should have the same test as a man and not have an easier one, like there is now with the fitness test. This should be the same for all genders. I will argue that is is polite for a man to hold open a door, pull out the chair in the restaurant, and offer to pay on a first day (especially if they asked you out) - because it is a nice thing to do.
The word does have so many negative connotations, because at times the message gets lost and each person will have their own beliefs. I do not mind being wolf whistles at. I would be flattered by this, but I know some women who would feel so uncomfortable and intimidated. Each person is different, and how you want to be treated is dependent on your personality.
What are your thoughts on 'Love is Love' and how it's portrayed in today's society?
Love is love. You should have the freedom to be with who you want to be with. There is enough information out there for people forming an opinion. It does not bother me one bit if you are bi, trans, lesbian, gay, queer, pan-sexual, asexual, etc. What I do not like is to have it forced in my face - this is the same for straight people. Have some restraint, suck each other's face and dry hump in private please.
What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?
Find someone who you can talk too. A friend, family member, colleague or a stranger. Sometimes, just speaking the words will make you feel better and gain some perspective. They are not going to judge you. You may feel they will not understand, think you're lying, but this is just you talking yourself out of a difficult situation. You cannot continue to inhabit that dark place - there is a light, you just have to search for it and sometimes the tunnel will take some time to walk through until you get to the opening.
What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?
Stick up for yourself. This is not always fighting back or using your words in the moment. Sometimes you will need to think of other ways. Again, speaking to someone will make you feel so much better, and they may be able to give you a solution or some perspective. Ultimately they are in the wrong, and not you. This is what you need to remember. No one should be made to feel intimidated, inferior or daunted.
If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?
Envy. This brings the worst out in us all. We would not feel that we need to compare or compete with someone else; what they have or what they do. It leads directly to negative thoughts and bitterness instead of feeling happy for others. I was also going to say fear, but I think at times this is a good thing for us and can help us push our boundaries to achieve a positive outcome.
I would also like to get rid of tinned foods like spam, corned beef, or chicken curry, and microwavable meals. No, no, no! It's not war time and we are on rations. There is no nutritional value on this type of food. It is lazy, get to the shop and buy some meat, fish and veg. It will take you minutes to whip something up and it will be so much better for you.
What else do you feel strongly about?
So many things. I am quite opinionated. I like to think I can be adult about it and welcome a friendly discussion. I do not like being told what to think. If I disagree with you it does not mean I do not like you and we cannot be friends. It is ok to have different thoughts and opinions.
Let's end this with some fun 'This or That' questions:
Love or money?
Love, but you do need to be on a similar footing with money for it to work long term.
Work hard or play hard?
Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?
Right side up.
Chocolate or sex?
Plan everything or wing it?
Plan it, you can also plan to wing it.
Happiness or money?
Happiness, though money would make this easier to enjoy life more without the worries.
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