Bloggers Uncensored: with Rebekah Gillian
Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! This is my latest and favourite blog series that I've created. This series is an opportunity to read your favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics. This weeks blogger is Rebekah Gillian.
Tell us a little about yourself.
Hey! I'm Rebekah Gillian, a twenty year old blogger from Devon, England. I blog about my disability, autism, and lifestyle topics that interest me. At the moment, that's involved a lot of blogging-type blog posts.
Why do you write?
I write because it comes more naturally than speaking to me. I've been writing novels from a young age because it helped me to express myself, and things have kind of expanded on from there.
Why did you start blogging?
I started blogging because I wanted a way of showing my friends and family my writing talent without having to show them my novels. Now, however, the meaning has expanded, and I also write to raise awareness about autism and being autistic as an adult, which isn't talked about very much in mainstream media.
What do you love about the blogging world/community?
I love how supportive everyone is. There have been a number of occasions where I have reached out for help on Twitter and the blogging community has lent me a hand. I truly don't think I'd still be blogging after three years it it wasn't for the community aspect involved with it.
What do you hate about the blogging world/community?
Hate is a strong word, but I really struggle with blogging drama. I tend to come off Twitter when it happens because I struggle with confrontation and don't want to accidentally say something that adds to the situation. I don't think drama happens as much as it used to a year or so ago, though, which is good news!
In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?
Since I restarted my Twitter account last month after being locked out of my account, I've come to a meet a lot of smaller bloggers. Some of my personal favourites include Lydia, Sophie, and a blogger who I've known for a few years, Keeley.
What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?
Nothing in the future is definite. People may have plans for the next year, five years, or even ten years, but none of that is guaranteed to happen. Life events can change these plans so rapidly, and they can happen completely out of the blue, so I've learnt to expect the unexpected.
Not all friendships are forever. I've had many friendships in my life that have just fizzled out. They've never ended in an argument, we've just stopped speaking. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but I've since realise that there's nothing wrong with it, and it's really just a part of life.
What does freedom mean to you?
This is a question I found very hard to answer. I've deleted and rewritten it several times, but like this question suggests, it's different for everyone. At this point in my life, freedom for me would be having enough money to live on without worrying and having more hours in the day to get things done. On a larger level, I think it's about being able to do the things that you love and enjoy without being reprimanded by others unless what you're doing directly infringes on the happiness or inclusion of others.
What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?
I think we've made a great start on talking about mental health. The knowledge about self-care and the impact this has on keeping a positive mental health has become mainstream knowledge in the last few years, and it's helped so many people establish great routines. I love that people feel more able to share what they're going through with others, too, as it can help other people feel like they aren't alone. I've definitely felt grateful to people sharing their stories during my own down periods where my brain is doing everything to convince me I'm the only person ever to have felt like that.
With that being said, I think with more understanding comes greater opposition. Things like "snowflake" have been thrown around whenever someone dares to talk about aspects of their mental health, or expresses difficulty with a certain topic online. It can be disheartening when you see people saying, "man up" or claiming that millennial's/Gen Xers just don't know how to deal with their feelings because we've been pandered to our whole lives. They fail to take into account the more real threats to the youths mental health, such as poverty and the fact that so much of our life exists through altered realities online, so that they can stick with the easiest explanation of the problem.
What are your thoughts on feminism and how it's portrayed in today's society?
I love that we're becoming a society more accepting of differences, and I think feminism in it's different forms has helped us to reach this point. With that being said, I don't think it comes without it's problems. A lot of the time, for example, POC, trans and disabled females are left out of the conversation. You also get the radical feminists who want females to be better than men, which isn't great. One the whole, though, I do love that we're becoming more accepting and are looking more like an equal society regardless of the gender we present as.
What are your thoughts on 'Love is Love' and how it's portrayed in today's society?
As a member of the LGBT community, I love this message. I think it's great that we're becoming more understanding of differences and more and more people are understanding that heterosexual relationships aren't the only ones that should be allowed within society. There's still a lot of debate around 'love is love' and what constitutes within this label, with debates about paedophiles being part of it recently, but when it's used rationally, I think it's a great thing.
What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?
Take each day as it comes. I've been suffering from two mental illnesses for over a decade now, and I used to catastrophise things by looking into the future and wondering why I should bother sticking around if things weren't going to improve. Earlier this year, I received advice to take things one day at a time and it's helped so much. Obviously it's not always possible, and there are times when I get down about being ill, but when I can, I'll wake up, think about how I'm feeling, and adjust my day accordingly and it's helped so much.
What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?
Talk to someone as soon as possible. A lot of people stay silent because they don't think anyone will believe them, but they will, I promise. It's scary but things get so much easier once you tell other people.
If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?
Abusers--and yes, this includes bullied. I know that we need the bad in life to shine light on the good things we have, but should it really be at the detriment of people's lifelong self-esteem and self-image?
What else do you feel strongly about?
The right to make choices about our bodies and our lives. I feel like modern society has become a lot about conforming and making a decision that would be accepted by the most people, but we deserve to make mistakes. We shouldn't have to put our own feelings second over conforming within society, and I think people should stop putting so much pressure on people to do so.
Let's end this with some fun 'This or That' questions:
Love or money?
Work hard or play hard?
Work hard (at least while I'm younger, when I have the energy to do so).
Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?
Chocolate or sex?
Plan everything or wing it?
Happiness or money?
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