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Bloggers Uncensored: with soph.creates


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Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! This is my longest running blog series, and definitely my favourite. This series is a perfect opportunity to read your favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics, and to discover new bloggers that you can start following! This weeks blogger is soph.creates.


Tell us a little about yourself.

I'm Soph - a 22 year old Indian/German blogger from Hong Kong! I currently live in London with my boyfriend and our cat. My favourite colour is blue, my favourite place is by the ocean, and given the choice to eat any snack for the rest of my life it would be popcorn, hands DOWN.


Why do you write?

I write as a way to express myself and grow creatively as a person. As a kid, I loved reading and creating my own stories in my head, which lead to stacks on stacks of journals and diaries and eventually threw me into the path of theatre. Even though my life on and off stage is full of creative energy, there is something about writing that feels really cathartic and continues to draw me back in throughout my life.


Why did you start blogging?

I started blogging way back in the days of Bebo (bonus points to anyone who remembers this because it was SO long ago). It's always been an outlet for me to share thoughts and feelings because I so strongly believe that you can take something away from all stories. Sometimes that thing is a life lesson and sometimes it's to not put grapes in a microwave.


What do you love about the blogging world/community?

I love that everyone is so supportive of each other. This is obviously not always the case, but there will always be a few rotten apples in every bushel. So far all of the people I have met online have been so kind and interesting. They have made me feel so welcome in the digital space and have really made me believe that there is room for everyone at the top.


What do you hate about the blogging world/community?

Remember those few rotten apples? Well to me those rotten apples are what I hate about the blogging world and wider community. They're the kinds of people who seek out hate or conflict just for the sake of it and make it an uncomfortable place for all of us. Another pet peeve of mine is bloggers who don't spell check before they put a piece out into the world!


In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?

Off the top of my head, these people:


- Chloe

- Soph

- Olly

- Naomi

- Bethany

- Annelies


What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?

There are 3 sides to every story. Your perception, their perception, and the truth.


This runs true for pretty much everyone and everything and has really helped to frame my head-space for how I want to grow in the future. It helps me to be confident but not cocky, kind but not a pushover, and empathetic without burning out.


What does freedom mean to you?

Freedom, to me, means having the ability to make choices.


What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?

Mental health in today's society is glamorised and people who speak openly about it are lauded as pioneers. Even though I think it's important to showcase what it's really like to live with a mental illness, I think the way that it's often portrayed it not at all close to reality. The other side of the coin is that since everyone can tell their story, some people share their stories in a way that can actually be dangerous for vulnerable people. In my ideal world, people with mental illnesses who openly speak about their struggles should be speaking about their struggles as retrospectively as they can so as to show others who are struggling that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel.


What are your thoughts on feminism and how it's portrayed in today's society?

Feminism is currently very trendy and the way it's being portrayed at the moment is both amazing and questionable. I love the way that women are being portrayed more outside of the stereotypes (the mother, the virgin, the femme fatale, the bitch, the witch, the girl-next-door, etc) because it means that we're getting a nice variety of strong, real female characters and role models. However, on the flip side, since it's very trendy, a lot of "new" feminists aren't being as inter-sectional as they could be, which opens them up to a lot o criticism from some of the long-standing equality warriors. Unfortunately this is leading to beef within what would be a movement for all, but at the end of the day, since we are all pressing for progress I think we're on the right track. Even if we still have a long way to go.


What are your thoughts on 'Love is Love' and how it's portrayed in today's society?

Love is love is a great way to show xenophobes and homophobes that they're really just hate-filled. There's nothing more to say because love is love and someone who can't see that and/or are actively working to revoke the rights of their fellow brothers and sisters can shove a cactus up their ass.


What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?

You come first. Your mental health is as important as your physical health so go and see a doctor if you can't handle it on your own. If you broke your arm you wouldn't just "hope it get's better". Going to therapy is not going to be the wonder cure for your illness but it's a great step in figuring everything out and working to make yourself better.


What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?

Whoever is bullying you in probably going through their own shit and need to harass you to feel validated for injustices they feel in their own life. If you're a student, talk to a teacher about what's going on or hell even see if it's a possibility to move schools. If you're at work, go to HR. Otherwise, don't engage, and don't take anything they say to heart.


If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?

Wasps.


What else do you feel strongly about?

How I Met Your Mother had the worst ending of any TV sitcom and I will NEVER get over the fact that I religiously watched that show for 9 years only to be disappointed by it.


On a serious note, I also strongly care about equality for all and bodily autonomy of women. In light of the abortion laws in the US, I have never been more pro-choice in my life.


Let's end this with some fun 'This or That' questions:


Love or money?

Love.


Work hard or play hard?

Both.


Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?

Right side up!


Chocolate or sex?

Both (and at the same time if you're down)


Plan everything or wing it?

Plan for success and wing it if it fails.


Happiness or money?

Happiness! But I wouldn't be sad if I had infinite money either.


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There's a new blogger every Sunday at 5pm, see you there!


Love, Han


xo



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