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Bloggers Uncensored: with The Doubting Thomas

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Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! If this is your first time reading a BU interview, this is my longest running blog series, and definitely my favourite. This series is a perfect opportunity to read your favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics, and to discover new bloggers to follow! This weeks blogger is The Doubting Thomas.

Tell us a little about yourself.

My name is Tom, I'm 30 years old, married with two girls aged 9 and 3. I work as a project manager, I love my music and there's not much else to me!

Why do you write?

It's an outlet. I don't have an interest in blogging about healthy living or travel or any of that stuff; I'm just a bloke who likes to write about everyday life and the reality of it.

Why did you start blogging?

I began blogging in 2014 - I had just been made redundant and I promised myself I would write a blog post every single day until I found work. "Rambles and Redundancy" ran for almost 70 days before I ruined it by finding a job! I saw it as a challenge and something to keep me occupied but I ended up really enjoying it.

What do you love about the blogging world/community?

I love how easy it is to just post on the go - I use WordPress and would eventually like to go self-hosted but for now I enjoy just thinking up a topic and getting on with it.

What do you hate about the blogging world/community?

The focus on numbers. I understand, if you make blog professionally or if you have aspirations to blog for business or you're looking to expand, that views, likes, comments etc. are important. However if you're just someone like me who blogs for the fun of it, it seems increasingly difficult to drum up interest in the content of what you are writing without getting in people's faces and almost feeling as if you're harassing them to read your work!

In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?

Underrated I guess depends on what you rate as a good blog! I really need to read more people but the likes of Emily Jarmann (@EmilyJarmann), Stephen Yule (@YuleTimes) and Taylor Martin (@youngdumbmum) are people I enjoy reading.

What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?

People will do anything for their 15 minutes of fame. Typically, people who murder, rape, commit terrorist acts gain more column inches than people who do great deeds or achieve amazing things. That's the kind of world we now live in. I worry for the world we now live in. I worry for the world my kids are growing up in and what the world will be like in 10 years time.

What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?

I am happy to see we as a society are getting braver and more open about talking in relation to mental health. I must admit I never used to believe mental health struggles were difficult to overcome but I have understood so much more recently and am able to show more empathy with mental health issues. We have made great progress but still have a long way to go to stop people's ignorance.

What are your thoughts on feminism and how it's portrayed in today's society?

As a dad of girls, I am and always have been fully supportive of women's rights - I want my girls to feel strong and supported and feel as though they have a voice. So in that case, I am all for feminism. It is not a man's world, women should receive equal rights where applicable and campaigns should no longer fall on deaf ears. I will do all I can to encourage them.

What are your thoughts on 'Love is Love' and how it's portrayed in today's society?

I'm so glad more people are understanding this but we still have a long way to go. Agendas against people's race, orientation etc. are built from generations of ignorance. If someone is openly racist or sexist or homophobic and choose to air their views publicly, this will immediately draw negative attention. However I think a lot of people would rather have negative attention than no attention at all.

What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?

I am not great at advice, especially down to the fact I have only relatively recently been more aware of mental illness. What I would suggest though is keeping a journal and getting your feelings and concerns out on paper, or typed if you prefer. It will give you a platform to share your feelings, even if you originally only start sharing them with yourself.

What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?

Talk about it. I know it's easier said than done, but at the end of the day a problem shared with right people is a problem halved. Speak to your parents, teachers, authority and you hopefully feel a massive weight off your shoulders, even if the bullying does not stop straight away.

If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?

Greed. The amount of sports stars (for example) who earn hundreds of thousands PER WEEK compared to the amount of families in this country and around the world who live in poverty. There should be a cap on wages, a cap on diamonds and all the other crap that comes with the status.

What else do you feel strongly about?


Let's end this with some fun 'This or That' questions:

Love or money?

I will of course say love but it's also hard to ignore the importance of money. Not quite sitting on the fence, just sitting relatively close to the fence!

Work hard or play hard?

Working hard as a priority, you'll then get more opportunity to play as a result.

Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?

Upside down on the draining board when drying up, right way up when stocked away in the cupboard.

Chocolate or sex?

Chocolate. Don't get me wrong, sex is great with the right person (and I'm with the right person) but when all is said and done, chocolate is immense.

Plan everything or wing it?

I'm a planner. I wish I was more spontaneous but unfortunately I am used to building myself around planning and weighing up pros and cons of each decision. (I sound riveting I know!)

Happiness or money?

Similar to the love or money question. I'm happier when I know I'm financially secure if I can treat myself to something I deserve. However I know happiness is the most important thing.

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Love, Han


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