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Bloggers Uncensored: with This Dreams Alive

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Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! This is my latest and favourite blog series that I've created. This series is an opportunity to read your favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics. This weeks blogger is Aisling from thisdreamsalive.

Tell us a little about yourself.

My name is Aisling (pronounced Ash-ling) and I'm a 22 year old Irish blogger.

Why do you write?

I've always loved writing from a young age, from fiction to journalism. It's a release for me, but I also express myself much better in writing than in speaking.

Why did you start blogging?

I started blogging when I was 14 as a space to vent and share my thoughts, and since then I've been on a lot of different blogs but my current blog has been with me since 2015 so I think it's the one that's going to stick.

What do you love about the blogging world/community?

I love how supportive and helpful a lot of the blogging community is, people are always rooting for each other.

What do you hate about the blogging world/community?

A small section are only out for themselves, like the people who follow just unfollow when you follow back, or copy and past comments onto blog posts about checking out their blog when it's obvious they didn't read yours. Thankfully it's only a minority that are like that.

In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?

I think WritersBlockWhat, The Diversity of Classic Rock and asphodel moon deserve more recognition, they have unique niches they fit into but also aren't limited with their content.

What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?

Things won't go the way you want them to, and it's okay to live it at your own pace. Just because everyone else your age is out travelling and starting their careers, doesn't mean you have to if you're not ready or if it's not your time. Don't waste time trying to impress people who are going to be dead by the time you have a mid-life crisis over it.

What does freedom mean to you?

Being able to do what I want to do with my life, without needing to have to compromise.

What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?

As someone with mental illness, the lingering stigma is frustrating, but thankfully there has been a lot of progress in recent years that I hope continues. The lack of help and resources available is astounding, not everyone is lucky enough to private counselling, doctors etc, and even then I've had bad experiences with counselors and doctors who didn't take me seriously or even understand what I was dealing with.

What are your thoughts on feminism and how it's portrayed in today's society?

I have so much respect for the first two waves, women owe feminism everything. There's a lot about the current wave that I absolutely agree with, but feminism has always been divided, right back to Rubin Vs Dworkin feminism, so it's hard to identify with something that has internal disagreements. My biggest disagreement is the gender quota which I find patronising, and obviously Terfs - terfs are trash.

What are your thoughts on 'Love is Love' and how it's portrayed in today's society?

I think it's crazy that people still have such animosity towards the LGBTQ+ community. Love is so pure and everyone deserves to love whoever they fall for. I am concerned about pedophiles trying to infiltrate the LGBTQ+ community though, under the quise of being "pedosexual". Love is love means loving someone regardless of gender - not "loving" children!

What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?

Mental illness can make you feel like a hopeless case and that it's always going to be hard, but that's not true. I'd encourage anyone suffering with it not only to seek help from professionals, but to remember that others know how they feel and if they got through it, so can you.

What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?

If you're in school, work, or college, tell someone who can deal with the situation and hopefully resolve it. What made me let go of a lot of my anger was when I realised the vast minority of people who bullied me were suffering themselves. Although that doesn't excuse their behaviour or make it okay, it just means I feel bad for them. When you're bullied, abused, harassed, hurt etc you can either take it out on others or rise above and make sure no one else is treated how you were - always choose the latter.

If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?

Capitalism, the disparity of wealth is disgusting. Why is it that people have more money than they know what to do with, while people are living on the street in the same city?

What else do you feel strongly about?

I'm really passionate about trying to be eco-friendly/cruelty free. I eat mostly vegan, only buy cruelty free cosmetics, and live as eco-friendly as I can - eg having reusable, sustainable products, not consuming meat and dairy. I also don't like the idea that everything was put on this Earth for us and us alone, the notion that we're superior seems to be what ruined the environment in the first place, and animals & nature deserve much more respect than we give them. We don't have a Planet B, and it's so worrying seeing our world fall apart around us and yet no one is half as concerned as we should be.

Let's end with some fun 'This or That' questions:

Love or money?


Work hard or play hard?

Play hard.

Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?

Right side up.

Chocolate or sex?


Plan everything or wing it?


Happiness or money?


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Love, Han


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