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Bloggers Uncensored: with What Abigail Says

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Welcome to this weeks Bloggers Uncensored! If this is your first time reading a BU interview, this is my longest running blog series, and definitely my favourite. This series is a perfect opportunity to read your favourite bloggers' honest and uncensored opinions on real life topics, and to discover new bloggers to follow! This weeks blogger is What Abigail Says.

Tell us a little about yourself.

Hiya! I'm Abi, a 25 year old digital marketer and blogger from the Midlands, UK. I'm a self-confessed stationery addict with a love for gigs, musical theatre and all things small and fluffy! I'm also super passionate about educating people about sexual health and relationships - something I've been trying to combine with blogging recently!

Why do you write?

I've always enjoyed the creativity and thoughtfulness of writing since I was young. I was forever keeping diaries, writing stories in my room and even poems for friends. I find writing a really cathartic activity and it's really good for my mental health and wellbeing.

Why did you start blogging?

I actually started blogging on a bit of a whim! I was in my final year of university and had a lot of thoughts and feelings that I needed to work through, so I started my blog but kept it fairly under wraps. It was a bit like an online diary really.

Over time, as my studies finished, I started writing less about my personal life and more about interesting topics, and in 2018 I started taking this whole blogging thing a bit more seriously.

What do you love about the blogging world/community?

I love that you can connect with so many people around the world so easily. In general, the blogging community is super friendly so everyone is always sharing tips and advice, as well as supporting you creatively.

What do you hate about the blogging world/community?

Ooh the Twitter drama can get bitchy but I stay out of all of that and just keep to my little corner! I also hate when people copy blog posts - like fully copy and paste the whole thing! Thankfully this hasn't happened to me as far as I'm aware, but I've seen it happen to friends and it's so wrong.

In your opinion, who are the most underrated bloggers?

Some of my favourite bloggers at the moment are:

My Blurred World

Carpe Diem Emmie

Bryony Baker

What are some hard truths you have learnt about life?

Oh gosh, it's getting deep! I think learning that sometimes you will like people more than they like you was a tough one for me.

What does freedom mean to you?

Being able to freely speak your mind, do as you please, explore your surroundings.

What are your thoughts on mental health and how it's portrayed in today's society?

I think it's definitely getting better, and I think the blogging community is great for highlighting the real life impact of so many different mental illnesses. There is, of course, still stigma out there, but we're taking steps in the right direction in my opinion.

What are your thoughts on feminism and how it's portrayed in today's society?

Again, feminism is definitely growing! There's some really amazing books out there that are bringing a modern take to feminism, and encouraging women to love themselves and all of that which is great. There's also a big uprising in the girlboss movement too - super positive to see!

What are your thoughts on 'Love is Love' and how it's portrayed in today's society?

Hmm...As someone who identifies as bisexual it's really tricky. I personally feel very accepted in my life, both online and offline, but I am fully aware that there are still homophobic incidents happening. One thing I will say is that bi-erasure is DEFINITELY still a thing. I've been in a relationship with a guy for nearly 6 years now and often have people questioning my sexuality because of this.

What advice would you give to someone who is fighting a mental illness?

Talk about it. Even if it's to your dog. Just saying how you feel out loud makes a huge difference. Seek help as soon as you feel you are able to. Take comfort in the little wins - it's okay if all you did today was get out of bed.

What advice would you give to someone who is being bullied or harassed?

Tell someone. I was bullied throughout high school and only ever spoke to my friends about it, when I should have told a parent or teacher. It may seem like there is nothing that can be done, but there is. If it's not in a school environment, confide in your friends and family. Just don't stay silent.

If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?

I feel I should say something deep and profound like hunger, but actually if we could just get rid of spiders that would be great!

What else do you feel strongly about?

Sexual health and sex education! It's a bit of a strange thing to be interested in but I find it fascinating, and have always done so. I love to be able to give people advice and educate others, and it's so important that people understand the dangers of STIs and other aspects of sex too.

Let's end this with some fun 'This or That' questions:

Love or money?


Work hard or play hard?

Play hard.

Cups in the cupboard: right side up or upside down?

Right side up.

Chocolate or sex?

That's a tough one... Sex!

Plan everything or wing it?

Plan it, make a list for it, plan it again...

Happiness or money?


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There's a new blogger every Sunday at 5pm, see you there!

Love, Han


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