• Han Butler

my 11 top tips for meeting his family

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So you've been dating for a while now and it's time to meet his parents. Let's be honest, that shit is terrifying! I remember being in a taxi on my way to meet my boyfriends family for the first time, and I was sweating, my stomach was in knots and the urge to fake being ill so I could turn back around was STRONG! Now luckily, it went well for me, I love his family. But there's no way to know that when you're about to meet them for the first time. So I've decided to share with you my 11 top tips to help you.


1.) Gather as much intel as you can

Talk to your boyfriend and try and find out as much as you can about his family. Do they appreciate jokes? Are they a laid back family or stuck up? Do they prefer no shoes on the carpet? What kind of things are his siblings into? Where do his parents work? What does his mum like?

Knowing information like that will go a long way in helping you make a good first impression.

2.) Dress appropriately but still be you

Obviously the first time meeting his parents you probably shouldn't have everything on show or wear a shirt that says "Sex drugs & sausage rolls", it could send the wrong message to certain people. But that doesn't mean that you need to cover yourself completely and dress like a nun. You need to be you, and show your personality - just think about how appropriate it is first.

3.) Don't turn up empty handed

Is it a party? Someone's birthday? Just a dinner? Whatever it is make sure you turn up with something appropriate, whether it be a birthday card, a bottle of wine, a dessert etc.

4.) Try and bond with his mum

8 times out of 10, the mum is the one who's approval you really need, so make sure you try to bond with her. Plus, she could be your mother-in-law one day, wouldn't it be nice to have a great relationship with her?

5.) Be polite but be yourself

Always be polite, but don't focus on being so polite that you silence your personality. Get involved in the conversation, crack a joke (if appropriate), there's no point in them not getting to know the real you.

6.) Remember your manners

This is not one of those times where you should forget to use your manners. Remember your please and thank you's and always remember to thank them for having you over before you leave!

7.) Tone down the PDA... but not completely

I don't think his family wants to watch you both with your tongues down each other's throats, so tone back the PDA. But not completely, holding hands, hugs and the occasional peck on the lips could actually be really cute for his family to see. Plus, it would probably really calm your nerves a lot!

8.) Limit your phone time

I know we tend to go on our phones in uncomfortable or high anxiety situations, but sitting there on your phone will just come across rude. So try not to go on it.

9.) Offer to help

Offer to help with the dishes, or to help clean up. They'll most likely say it's okay and for you to go and sit down, but they'll appreciate the offer.

10.) Compliment their son

Be sure to mention how great their son is - they'll love that!

11.) Remember this...

Going into this I want you to remember that you already have one thing in common with them - your love for him. So as long as you're respectful, everything else is trivial.

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Hop into my DM's or pop me an email to let me know how it went! I would love to know.

Love, Han


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