• Han Butler

My 6 Top Tips To Feeling Sexy

Updated: Sep 17, 2019


Photo by Valeria Boltneva

Whether you're a size 4 or size 20, you deserve to feel sexy every minute of every day. Whether you're a model or a cleaner, you also deserve to feel sexy every minute of every day. Every single woman should be able to feel sexy. You don't have to be naked to feel sexy, you just have to feel confident and good in your own skin.


I've always had a love/hate relationship with feeling sexy. If I'm unhappy, I don't have any confidence which means I definitely don't feel sexy or attractive at all. But when I'm happy I have an infinite amount of self-confidence. Since being in a relationship I've felt sexier than ever and I feel completely comfortable with who I am. Although I do still have my "feeling ugly" moments, especially if I'm having a bad mental health day.


Feeling sexy sounds easier said than done right? Well don't worry, I got you girl!


MY 6 TOP TIPS TO FEELING SEXY


SELF CARE


Don't worry I'm not going to suggest that you eat salad for breakfast, lunch and dinner or kill yourself in the gym every night; because I definitely don't do that. Self care is all about treating yourself right; that includes your body and mind. When you feel good, you feel sexy. Here are a few ways to practice self-care:


> Make sure you're getting enough sleep. It's recommended that those over the age of 18 should aim for 7-9 hours of sleep each night.

> Slow down. I know life can become hectic and you end up rushing around trying to get 20 different jobs done at the same time, but slow down and take a breath. Then you work our what needs to be done, in what order. Stress is not good for your well-being. You can get everything done as soon as you establish priorities; and you are ALWAYS the top priority.

> Take time out to pamper yourself, even if it's just a 20 minute bath with bubbles, candles and a glass of wine.

> Implement a mindfulness routine. It's so important to make sure that your mind is free from negativity. When your mind is healthy, you're healthy, which in turn makes you feel more sexy.


TREAT YOURSELF


It's all well and good taking care of those around you but who's taking care of you? Sometimes we have to be the ones to treat ourselves and it should always be guilt-free because we deserve to feel good about ourselves. Treat yourself to a full body massage or a new hair do, or treat yourself to something you don't normally wear but would love to try out. Changing things about yourself, whether it's dramatic changes or ones that maybe only you can notice, makes you feel like a new and improved version of yourself. It's also a sure-fire way to feel instantly sexier!


SEXY LINGERIE


You don't have to be a Victoria Secret model to wear sexy lingerie. No matter what size you are, you will find lingerie that allows you to harness your inner sexy! Although a sexy two piece would definitely spice things up in the bedroom, you don't have to wear it just for your partner. There's something so sexy and empowering about going about your day-to-day business and being the only one who know that you're wearing something sexy underneath those clothes.


ACCEPT AND LOVE YOURSELF


LOVE YOURSELF! I've repeated this so many times throughout my blog because it's so damn important. You have to acknowledge the good and the 'bad' of yourself and accept each one for what they are - perfect imperfections that make you the beautiful person that you are. I know it's difficult in a world where social media portrays a certain look that everyone is supposed to strive for, but ignore that bullshit, don't compare yourself to anybody else. Once you love yourself, you become confident in who you are and in your body; that's when you become the sexy woman you deserve to be. I should mention though, although I love my body and who I am, I'm still human and I still have insecurities that sometimes overpower my confidence - but that's ok. Here are a few ways that you can practice self love:


> Be kind to yourself.

> Repeat affirmations to yourself in the mirror every day. Such as; "you are enough", "you are strong", "you are smart". Although you should try to make them more personal to you. Jot down anything you love about yourself, and repeat it every day.

> Cut toxic people from your life. If they're not helping you grow or bringing you constant support and happiness to your life then they need to be cut loose. It's ok to be selfish sometimes, you come above all else.

> Be true to your emotions and feelings. You need to accept that sometimes people won't like what you do or how you think, but you should never change because of them. You need to know that it's ok to say no to shit you don't want to do, it does not make you a selfish person. And never keep your feelings bottled up, that doesn't help you or those around you.


BE THE BOSS OF YOUR LIFE


One of the things that I find most sexy about a person, is when they know what they want and they go after it with everything they have. Pursuing your dreams and passions, no matter how crazy or "unrealistic" they may seem, is extremely sexy. It doesn't just portray you as a sexy person, it makes you feel like one too.


One you decide to take control of your own life and future, you suddenly get this wave of power and you feel like such a badass! Don't be afraid of what other people might think, and don't be afraid of what could go wrong; just do it. Take a leap of faith.


FLIRTING


When you gather the confidence to flirt you ooze sexiness, trust me! But flirting doesn't always come so easy for people, if you lack in that department don't fret because I'll be publishing my Flirting 101 post next week!


This is a tip for those in a couple too. Just because you're in a relationship, that doesn't mean you have to stop flirting with your partner. Surprise them with a sexy text or a picture. If that doesn't make you feel sexy in itself, then the anticipation of waiting for their response will definitely have an exciting effect on you.


Are my tips helpful? What do you do to feel sexy? Let me know in the comments down below.


Love, Han


xo



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